Songs Become Things
A couple years back I had a session with my coach, the amazing Jude Elliman, as I was trying to figure out my passion and the path I wanted to take in life.
We looked at my timeline, a poster I had created years earlier. This was an exercise from the book Live the Work You Love by Peter Hyson, a good friend, coach and priest.
On my timeline there’s a little note ‘the day the music died’.
As coaches do, Jude immediately wanted to know more: what was behind you stopping? Is it still important to you? Do you want to perform?
And scared me said something along the lines of ‘I wasn’t good enough, I didn’t want to compete with others, I’m too old now.’
However, it did spark something within me. And as I was driving back, listening to Magic FM (what else, right?) I stopped short of belting out the last words of ‘Don’t speak - I know what you’re thinking…’ - really?
"I have no idea what you’re thinking, but I’m afraid it’s not what I want to hear so please just shut up."
With hindsight it’s always easy to recognize moments of great truth, pivot points and epiphanies. At that moment, I can’t say it was revolutionary thinking - yet.
As the years’ gone by, I started being a little more conscious about the songs I sang out loud with. I couldn’t tell you why, but I was happier listening to instrumental music most of the time.
During this time I also went deeper into myself, deeper into the law of attraction, thoughts become things, and discovering my limiting beliefs. I wrote my most-loved blog of the year ‘Spider in My Bed’ - a way to showcase how manifestation works, and how often we manifest the things we don’t really want in our life: purely by putting emotions (in this case fear) into what we really don’t want to happen.
Fast forward to 2020 and watching ‘Bohemian Rhapsody’ - a movie I loved about a band I’ve long admired for their ability to stretch themselves across genres and not conforming to one ‘box’.
It’s from this movie I learned that the song ‘Bohemian Rhapsody’ was written about 10 years prior to Freddie Mercury’s HIV diagnosis. What? It’s a song I’ve loved and sung many a times - especially on my trips to school when I was in the US and my good friend Mitch would give me a lift.
But I always thought it was a song written about having HIV, the fear of hurting others, the pain that’s expressed, and the feeling of the inescapable truth - death. Yet, he didn’t know about being ill. His wild years were just about to start…
Looking at my own life and the songs I emotionally attached to, I can see how I unconsciously manifested a lot of heartache (Whitney Houston, anyone?) and a lot of uncertainty (thanks, Alicia Keys!).
Hindsight is a beauty! And I’m a lot more conscious now about the songs I surround myself with, the ones I truly engage in and sing to with passion.
This is not to say we shouldn’t feel pain. There are great songs to really feel into the pain and be present with those feelings.
Just don’t get stuck in those songs and those feelings. Think of the character of Karen (Emma Thompson) in Love Actually: listening to the songs of Joni Mitchell - and how that played out in her life...
At the end of feeling into the pain, always remember to step out. Consciously. Into the light and the hope of a new beginning.
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